A loving relationship is something we all want and need. We want to feel wanted, loved, important, supported, and happy. We want to feel connected to the other person and we want to know that we belong somewhere… However, the majority of us are not willing to open up our heart to receive it! Instead, we hold on to very limiting and unhealthy beliefs about men, women, and relationships themselves!
You can have everything you want and that is including a loving and happy relationship, but it will require some work on your part in order to have it.
Inner work
When I say “work required” I don’t mean anything physical or external. It is actually quite the opposite… you will have to do the INTERNAL work. Nothing outside of you needs to change in order for you to have a loving relationship. There are plenty of opportunities, there are plenty of people that you can connect with.
The thing is you don’t want to have anybody. You want to have someone who is your energetic match! You want someone who is totally compatible with you, who will know what you need and know how to “read” you. Someone who will be your perfect match, your soul mate. Someone who will do the life dance with you rather than standing in the corner watching you or putting you in the corner and that dance himself.
Therefore, it is so important that you do some inner work before you manifest the perfect match for yourself!
So, for example, if you think of yourself not in a kind manner, or you are disrespectful of yourself, or you don’t like yourself, or you think of yourself small, and don’t feel confident. Moreover, you have people on a pedestal, and you think that everyone is better and prettier than you are, then guess what!? This is exactly who you are going to attract to your life because that is your energetic match!
Relationship with yourself
Therefore, this is so important that you will treat yourself NOW the way you would like to be treated by your soul mate partner. Now is all that matters so if you want to have a loving and happy relationship you got to work on it now, not later.
Now you need to become the person that you think your perfect match will want to love. Now you need to be the person who is energetically compatible with your soul mate partner.
You don’t have to wait to change the way you think about yourself until the time when you find that amazing partner. No! you don’t wait! You do it now! From now on every day you got to work on yourself and become the person you think you need to be in order to have your great partner! You need to become great yourself!
Let gooooo
So don’t be afraid to create yourself. Don’t be afraid to become a new person. Only from the place of the unknown something amazing can be created. Trust it.
Let go of your past experience, let go of your “evidence”, and let go of the need to be right about relationships… remember in order to create you need to create from a blank page… Become someone who doesn’t hold on to the past unhealthy beliefs, and become someone who chooses their thoughts and beliefs consciously and wisely!
Focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Take control over your thought and start consciously choosing more positive thoughts about yourself and your relationship. Catch yourself when you talk negatively about men or women… stop it immediately you become aware of it. Pay attention to how you think, talk, and behave. Pay attention to how you dress, what you eat, how you walk… just pay attention to yourself. And constantly ask yourself what or how would I talk or walk if I was already respecting myself and was the person, I think I need to be to attract this perfect match. Be it. Live it.
The perfect relationship
Now take a piece of paper and write down all of the characteristics you want your perfect match to have and be. Everything. Looks, personality, how s/he is treating you. Where do you live together, what does s/he do, how do you spend your day together, who is cooking, and what are the boundaries in your relationship? Be as specific as you can be. Dive in there… create…
Now notice the feelings that are attached to it. What do you feel while you created this amazing person? Write them down… those emotions are very important because they help you connect with that person, these are your quantum emotions. The person you want already exists in the quantum field. Now you need to keep bringing those quantum emotions as often as you can because this is how the Universe is going to bring this experience to you.
Conclusion
This is not any “whoo-hoo” stuff, this is science, this is quantum physics, neuroplasticity, and the law of attraction. You don’t have to believe me. In fact don’t believe me, go and try it for yourself, test it, explore it.
However, you can trust me because this is how I have manifested my husband, I even gave him a name when I was creating him in my head… Guess what is my husband’s name? 😊 Exactly as I named him in my head a few months before! 14 years later we still are as happy as we met, or even more! And there is still the same fire between us when we met.
So, start the creation process! Don’t allow your logician mind, self-sabotage or ego to stop you from trying it out. Test it, and don’t give up until you have it.
Enjoy my dear! You deserve to have a loving relationship!
With lots of love,
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